The "Ideal Relationship"

One of the Socratic Seminar questions from the Fountainhead addressed the relationship between Dominique and Roark and states than Ayn Rand wrote their relationship to be the ideal relationship.  Now first of all the start of their relationship is a bit unorthodox, starting with rape as Dominique calls it.  But, in the reading the way their relationship begun was with her going out just so she could see him and finding a way for him to come to her house.  The fact that she really wanted to be with him but then struggled and fought him when he had her shows the complexity of their relationship.  From my stand point this was a very erotic scene for a book written in the 1940s so it is obvious to me that the manner of their relations was important to Rand.  Ayn was showing that these two people did not have any morals, or standards of the world and they went after what they wanted the way they chose.
From there their relationship becomes a battle with a theme of conquering one another.  Dominique attacks Roark in his career and then she goes to his house at night so he can physically conquer her.  However, she wants to punish herself and marries Peter, and then marries Gale.  She forces herself not to need him.
Roark never seems to need her, he loves her and doesn't mind having her around, but when she isn't there he isn't missing her, he is the same with or without her.  As cold hearted as this may seem I find this is a healthy part of any relationship, no codependency.
Personally and through observation of teenage romance I have noticed that when people are in relationships they being to depend on and need each other.  However, when this happens people become clingy, paranoid, and controlling.  If someone depends on you for everything, their happiness and how to make decisions you gain so much power over their life.  But they become clingy and paranoid because if you leave them their "whole life" is gone. This is not a healthy way to have a relationship.  I've been in a place where a guy liked me too much and in his mind needed me, and it wasn't something that I could handle, because that is too much for another human being to take.
Ever since then I have decided that I want to be in a relationship with a guy where we don't need each other because its not a healthy way for a relationship to be.  I enjoyed reading that aspect of Roark and Dominque's relationship because it is a principle that I follow in my life and that I believe others in relationships should too.  They took it to the extreme however the basics of it are important in all relationships.
Another aspect of their relationship that I thought made them ideal was in their manner of speaking to one another.  They were very straight forward and didn't beat around the bush, they were brutally honest.  Although I have issues with this, as does everyone, I hope that I can reach a security in who I am where I can be completely honest with people.  I also like how they don't have trite conversations, no small talk.  Sometimes this could be annoying you do want someone who can express their feelings, however they just were very blunt and purposeful in their conversations which I find interesting to read.  From viewing others I have seen that a lot of problems arise from lies and hiding things and not blatantly telling the other person the truth for the sake of their feelings or saving a reputation.  Roark and Dominique don't have these worries and so their relationship works.
The most important part of any relationship is having someone similar to you with a similar purpose in life.  These two demonstrated that and also led an example without neediness and full of honesty. These aspects of their relationship I commend and I hope to be able to demonstrate in my future relationships.